When I saw the cringey-sweet ad about a gay couple adopting a little boy with the help of Delaware County (NY) Department of Social Services (and saving $100,000 on the adoption - one of the adoptive parents, Dan Endress, had to mention that detail), I knew I need to dig the adoptive parents' backgrounds.
Because I have lived in Delaware County for 16 years, and during those entire 16 years either my husband, or we together, or I alone represented parents against that same Department of Social Services - I know Delaware County DSS, their mafia and their mafia tricks VERY WELL.
Delaware County as a whole is (some call it "a land of kissing cousins") - tribal, clannish, and its DSS is even more so.
Moreoever, I know for a fact that Delaware County DSS never act as good Samaritans to anybody outside of their circle.
Moreover, as an attorney, I know how gay-averse local public figures are, so, when I saw this particular joyous piece, I started to dig for answers - and boy what I, of course, found.
First of all, for some interesting reason, DSS in its ad changed the name of one of the adoptive parents.
It showed him as a "Sean Kaufmann".
"the issue is not, as the Polks would have it, whether one choice of custody or another is better for the child, or, put another way, whether the Polks would raise the child better than would the unwed mother, or which cultural or family background would be best for the child.
Least of all is the issue that of comparing the quality and depth of love and affection between the child and those who would compete for its custody.
Nor is the issue whether natural parents or adoptive parents make "better" parents, whatever that may mean.
The power of the State, let alone its courts, is much narrower.
Child and parent are entitled to be together, unless compelling reason stemming from dire circumstances or gross misconduct forbid it in the paramount interest of the child, or there is abandonment or surrender by the parent.
A baby born out-of-wedlock, even of a troubled mother, is not no-one's child.
In the inimitable vernacular, it is not "up for grabs".
It is not a waif claimable by the first finder, however highly qualified."
- Knowing how Delaware County DSS made a child trafficking conveyer from the poor to the local high-and-mighty of infant children, without any legal grounds for it,
- knowing how local judges fold over under DSS pressure, and knowing which financial incentives exist for the local judges and for DSS to do so;
- getting hints from this cringey-"sweet" story that the mother DID get her son for a month and a half back, so she did not want to let him go - before DSS, with the help of one of the local Family Court judges who DSS financially supports - ripped the child out of the mother's arms because Dan Engress got a liking of him and wanted to save $100,000 on surrogacy, and because DSS thought they will look properly woke and good and "modern" in giving an infant to a gay couple, even if one of the adoptive parents was UNWILLING